Can you really have it all?

Can you really have it all?

I say YES. 

The answer:

Repeat after me….

“I am worthy and deserving of ALL life has to offer.
I am limitless.
I am important.
I am loved.
I am enough.”

So this question… Can you really have it all? You do realize that even entertaining the thought of lack is crazy, right? Of course, you can have it all.  You’re the f’ing light.  You’re made from energy.  And can shape and create this life any way you choose.

You create your thoughts.  Your thoughts create your intentions.  And your intentions create your reality. 

Of course, you can have it all. No one ever said it was easy.  That this life or ‘having it all’ would be a piece of cake.  But if there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that we were made to do hard things.

We’re designed to persevere and to live abundant, prosperous, joy-filled lives. That power lies within each of us. By shifting our beliefs and looking at life from a soul level perspective we understand that we are powerful beyond measure and that anything really is possible. Can we really have it all?

Repeat after me:

“I can.  I will.  Watch me.” 

Having it all comes easy to me.  And it can for you too.

If you’re ready….really ready to have it all.  Then you need to take the first step.  And figure out what’s getting in the WAY of your next level life.

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What are you tolerating?

What are you tolerating?

Are your date nights kind of lame?  Or non-existent?
Are you yelling at your kids?
Are you feeling overwhelmed at times and disorganized in your head and heart?
Do you feel like there’s a deeper purpose to life that you haven’t tapped into yet?
Are you ‘happy’ but not fulfilled?
Are you content but not set on fire?
Are you settling (oh that dreaded S word) for a life that is good but not GREAT?  Actually, it’s great but not EXTRAORDINARY?
Are you playing small?

Let’s face it.  I know you are.  And YOU know you are.

You’re settling for and tolerating a life that’s beneath you. Sure it might be more than most women have.   And I know you feel bad feeling all this.  But I’m here to remind you there’s MORE.  More you can BE, more you can DO and more you can HAVE. 

Listen we only have one shot at this life thing. We can’t afford to play small? No day is guaranteed. So we can’t hold back. We need to hit the gas. Settling. Tolerating. Playing small. None of that will get us the juicy delicious totally fulfilling life we’re after.

You need to stand up for YOU. No one else will.

You need to stop tolerating poor treatment. From yourself and others.

You need to step up and ask for what you want. Heck give yourself what you want.

You need to stop settling for less than you deserve.

And when do you think you need to do that? Yup!! Right f’ing now.

Earlier this year I created a new boundary in our family. My kids are getting older and there’s a lot more “sass” going on in our house. Mocking and eye rolling and telling someone to “shut up” (and a whole lot worse) started to be second nature. And it hit me. I was overly tolerant and creating a culture that was becoming unbearable. I was creating an environment where we were not thriving. To say the least.

Well, alleluia and praise the Lord for this awareness. Because now I can do something about it. I can change it!

So we’re changing our family culture. I’m doing it and you can too.

We are the matriarchs of our families. It’s our job to lead the way. Whether it’s changing our family culture from one of disrespect to loving kindness. Or from entitlement to compassion. Or if it’s improving our health. Enhancing our marriage or changing our money story. This is all possible when we realize we need it. When we stop tolerating so much. When we set a new higher standard then everyone can rise up to meet it.

For me this took accountability. It took a community. It took coaching. I tapped into all the tools I could find because I was committed to this change.

If you have the desire. But don’t have the tools. I’ve got your back. 

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Take your life, your relationship, your career, your parenting, your health, all to the next level. It starts with the desire. Then with saying YES.

Living with No Regrets and Leaving a Legacy

Living with No Regrets and Leaving a Legacy

This last week I’ve been doing a lot of small group coaching.  And a common theme has been creeping in…. regrets.

It’s a word we often don’t reflect on until it’s too late.  I came across an article by John-Paul Iwuoha. The 5 Biggest Regrets People Have Before They Die. What he shared in the article was…

Bronnie Ware – an Australian nurse and counselor – took care of terminally ill people, most of whom had less than 12 weeks to live.  As part of therapy, Bronnie would ask about any regrets they had about their lives and anything they would do differently. Of all the responses she got from her patients, she noticed there were 5 regrets that stood out.

These were the most common regrets of her patients:

1) I wish I pursued my dreams and aspirations, and not the life others expected of me

Ouch.  That hurts.  This is a classic case of our head getting in the way of our heart.  The biggest take away from this #1 regret is…If you know what really makes you happy…do it! And if you don’t know what really makes you happy, what your dreams and aspirations are…FIND OUT.  Don’t wait until tomorrow. Heck, don’t wait another minute.  Do. It. Now! Joseph Campbell said it best.  “Follow your bliss.” Stop doing everything else.  And get out there and set the world on fire with your passion and purpose.  It’s never too late. Actually, it is. So do it now.

2) I wish I didn’t work so hard

No surprise here.  We don’t often wish at the end of our lives that we had spent more time at work.  People often wish they had put more focus on other things including their relationships, their health, and their spirituality.  Yep. All those really important things that we put on the back burner. Those things that matter most that we reserve for weekends and holiday breaks.  What is WRONG with this picture? We have our priorities backwards. Let’s turn them around. And start focusing on who we love.  What we love to do.  When we love doing it.  And how often.  That’s a great start.  

3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings and speak my mind

Emotional intelligence….wow.  Game changer. This to me means also “I wish I had taken more time to work on ME.” Because when we do the work, we get stronger.  Period. We have firmer boundaries, and we can express our needs. It’s only through our vulnerability that we can truly reach out greatness.  But we don’t explore our edge a lot. We don’t fully trust ourselves or others. There’s a whole other layer to this life that I see most women leaving left unexplored.  It’s our shame. It’s the real, raw, vulnerable truth of how we feel. And that, when exposed can lead be miraculous. It can create doors where there were once walls. Greatness here we come!  

4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.  But we often don’t work on it. This is more proof that the Harvard Grant study, the longest lasting study in history was right.  Having close friendships and intimate connections can quite literally determine our success in life.  Not just in life but in every area of our life.  Our relationship, our health, our wealth, our impact.  All of that is affected positively or negatively by our intimate friendships.  Our connections make life better. We need to treat them that way and consciously work on them.  #sisterhood

5) I wish I had let myself be happier

When we realize that happiness is a choice and we put conscious effort into it, that can lead to an incredibly fulfilling life. I also believe happiness is the art of allowing.  There’s a lot more at play here than just joy. When we focus on our happiness we tune in to our deeper desires. But again its something we take for granted. We think it should just happen.  So we don’t work at it. We hustle and work hard and think that will make us happy. If there’s one thing I could shout from the rooftops it would be this… “Master your happiness and you will master your life.”   

So I ask you…are there any REGRETS that you don’t want to die with?

Are you spending too much time working?

Putting work in front of family, friends, relationships?

Are you making money your top priority?  

Are there adjustments you can make in your life to change any of that?  

I think this study proves that living the most rewarding fulfilling life possible is not only necessary, it’s crucial.

Let’s continue the conversation. And see how we can not just live with no regrets but also leave a legacy.

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