The Key to Body Confidence

The Key to Body Confidence

I’ll just get right to it.

Don’t compare your 47 with other people’s 27. 
Don’t compare your 47 to your 27 either.

What I mean by that is, the key to having body confidence is loving and accepting your body AS IT IS, RIGHT NOW. In all its’ glory and imperfection. With all its’ lumps and bumps and wrinkles.

I think we get down on our bodies because we’re in constant comparison. With others AND ourselves.

What used to work for me 20 years ago doesn’t work for me anymore. What I could do 20 years ago I can’t do anymore.

And that’s OK. It sure should be ok, it’s been 20 years. And a 47-year-old body that’s had 2 kids should look different than a 27-year-old body. It’s just a fact.

Now I need to be careful with that. I don’t need to accept my body looking worse than I want it to. I don’t need to listen to the bullshit rules out there, like that we gain weight as we get older or that we get weaker or lose flexibility. I don’t need to buy into all that. I just need to fully accept the body that I have in this moment.

At OTF today we ran a PR 1 mile. When I heard we were doing that I got a little nervous. I had flashbacks to my days running races and working with a running coach. I’ve never been a ‘runner’ or very fast, but I used to work at it and now I don’t. It hurts. For me running a fast mile feels like a near-death experience.

But I ran one today. 20 years ago my fastest mile was a 6.40. And wow. I was so proud of that. Holy shit. That was REALLY fast for ME.

Today I thought I’d push myself and try and run as fast as possible. Could I run a 7.30? Maybe an 8:30? All I knew was that I would run as fast for 1 mile as my legs and heart could carry me.

I ran an 8.05. And wow. I was SO proud of that. Holy shit. That was really fast for 47 year old me.

No judgment. No comparison. Just radical acceptance. I have no idea what other people ran it in. I really don’t care. I never even think to look.

Because for me the key to body acceptance is not comparing myself to anyone else or to a younger version of myself.

This is what my body can do NOW. This is how hard I work to constantly improve it. This is why I’m so proud of THIS body.

Now here come the Big Questions/ Bold Answers ladies…..

Do you wish you had more body confidence?
What contributes to your body confidence?
And can you teach me how to take a better selfie? 😆


How to Step into your Next Level Life NOW

How to Step into your Next Level Life NOW

If you want a blissed out, crazy fulfilling, ‘Holy Shit I Never Imagined It This Good’ kind of life, then you have to change something to get there.

Because guess what?!  The same thing you’ve BEEN doing WON’T get you there.  Yep, you already knew that, didn’t you?  But you’re also still doing the SAME THING.

Here’s the shift.

You have to change your DAILY HABITS.

Our life is defined by our daily habits. Whether they are consciously created or not. Conscious is really the keyword. Because we can create a lot of unconscious daily habits.  Easily.

Feeding your fear with food or TV or social media is an unconscious daily habit.
Comparison and jealousy are too.
Putting ourselves last.
Focusing on lack.
Negative thoughts.

Our triggers, our judgments, our self-sabotage are all unconscious, negative habits that hold us back from living that juicy delicious life we’re after. Look at anyone’s life and you will know what daily habits got them where they are.

A healthy, happy woman has a lot of healthy daily habits. 

She has a solid morning routine.
A self-care practice.
A gratitude practice.
She probably meditates.
Eats clean.
Has a strong community of women around her.
She knows what to do with her fears and shame.
She knows how to manage her triggers.

These are all powerful daily conscious habits.

So yes, the key to your next level life lies in your daily habits. 

Now how can we change them and replace the unconscious, negative habits with new powerful positive ones? I have a few strategies that have helped me.

1. Track and measure what you’re trying to create
2. Remove the obstacles standing in the way
3. Have someone hold you accountable

These three steps have worked for me and hundreds of my clients.  They have helped me create powerful positive habits from a daily green drink and vitamin supplements, new gratitude practices, giving my husband his love language to telling my kids every night that they’re meant for greatness.  They can work for you too in any area of your life for any new habit you want to create.

Check out my 5 Worst Practices High Achieving Women Implement When Trying To Up-Level Their Lives so you can avoid these practices and use powerful positive practices that work.

You won’t believe #5! (Actually, you will, because I’m sure you’re doing it.)

Your next level life is waiting… and oh is it worth it.

Mastering Your Mindset

Mastering Your Mindset

If you’re a Mom I think you can relate to this story…  It happened to me a few years ago.

I was going in for my son’s first-grade parent-teacher conference.

I walked into the school, my head spinning with thoughts of doubt. I was skeptical about putting my son into public school from the beginning.  

I had these limiting beliefs that public school wouldn’t work for him, and unfortunately, I had these beliefs and thoughts enough that they started playing out.

He wasn’t having a great first-grade experience. During this conference, the teacher began telling me what my son was doing wrong, and how disappointed she was in him, how he didn’t try hard enough and had too much energy. She proceeded to tell me how “kids like him needed to be on medication” (which is something that legally teachers can’t tell parents).

Unfortunately, I started getting quite upset, pissed off actually, and then I exploded on her… “I don’t think there is anything wrong with my son, I think there is something wrong with you” – I just went off on her. I freaked out.

You see what happened there?  My anger trumped everything.

My anger took over and it transformed the entire situation. It was no longer her fault, it was now mine.

My anger and eruption overpowered what she had done (which in my eyes was clearly wrong). And now here I was, the one who needed to apologize. I was the one who lost control. So it was now my fault.

Anger puts us in a place where we are no longer focussing on the original issue, we are now apologizing for our anger and that becomes the issue.  

This epic mom-fail made me realize how badly I needed to master my mindset.

I want to share with you 4 Transformational Tips that helped me to put my anger to rest and master my thoughts, words, and emotions. Watch this video for a face to face inside scoop! 👇

#1 Awareness is the master of discipline. 

You can’t shift your shit if you don’t know what you need to shift. You must know where your negative thoughts are coming from, and know that you’re setting a negative mindset. Know that you CAN step out of these overwhelming thoughts.

We have to know where our negative thoughts are coming from, we have to know why we’re focussing on these anxieties and that we’re setting these negative mindsets by complaining and basking in our negative habits.

We have to know all of the dirty thoughts are creating these messy lives that we don’t want to live in, and we have to know that our overwhelm thoughts are creating more overwhelm. We have to know what pieces of our mind we need to shift to successfully shift our lives.

#2  Anger trumps everything.

It runs the show and it takes over. We can’t take control back until we can control our reactions and our anger.

When we’re in a situation with our children, and they’re doing something wrong and we respond with anger, that anger we display trumps their behavior (meaning that nothing else that happened matters anymore once we’ve gone off our rails).

When you master your mindset you will mastering your emotions as well and you will no longer be so quick to explode and respond with anger

#3 We are in control.

When we truly claim that and take responsibility we can change it! We are in control of our thoughts, our emotions, and our triggers. Our thoughts are the light switch to our emotions. When we’re aware we are in control we can make change.

My thoughts when I was sitting in this conference were “they don’t get my son”, “he’s not meant to be here”, “nobody understands him”, and “I knew this was going to happen”. “This teacher is awful”.

My thoughts created this trigger that flipped the light switch to my emotions.

When we control our thoughts, the thoughts can create a reality around what we DO want.

This is good news!

There is no puppeteer up there, we don’t have to feel like a victim to our own thoughts. We are in control. We can start directing our subconscious thoughts. It’s like muscle memory, and we can create the habit

Something I like to do is use a cancel process. A cancel process is when you cancel the negative thought and replace it with a positive thought.

Now when I have a thought of “oh my son isn’t meant for public school”, my thought becomes “My son is thriving”.  You see, he wasn’t really having a negative experience, I was living a negative experience through him.

My anger trumped all.

I apologized to this teacher and told her “I am so sorry and this has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with me”. He is having a really good experience, it was all of my stuff that I was spurging onto this teacher.

When I look back at this I think about how I could’ve handled it better. I should’ve said I’m going to need to end this conference and pick up where we left off tomorrow and said “here is where things went wrong for me”. That would’ve been so much better.

When you feel like you’re in a place where your heart rate is pumping and you NEED to say something that is usually when you need to take a step back and think on things.

I am in control of my triggers, I am in control of my emotions, and I am in control of my mindset.

A trigger is like a thorn under your skin, and we expect nobody to bump into us and hit our triggers.. But it’s not the world’s job not to trigger us. It’s ours.

It’s our job to be in control of our thoughts, emotions, triggers, and DIG IT UP.

Change your perception, and change your world.

# 4 What you think about, and focus on you get more of.

The more I thought about my son not working in public school, the more I saw that. So I started thinking about him thriving, I started thinking about him feeling understood and having great social and emotional education there.

What you set your mind on you’ll get more of! That’s why I think this mindset work is SO important.

Are you ready to master your mindset?

bad momI hope that you’ll join me, I have a Badass Mom Mindset Online Retreat happening August 21st. It is 21 days long, as it takes 21 days to build a habit. For 21 straight days, we are going to share and grow together.

I am going to share tips and tools, and we are going to go through these steps as a community. There will be a secret Badass Mom Mindset facebook group.


Some of the things we are going to go over are:


>How to stay positive when you’re around a lot of negativity

> How to remove your triggers for good

> The mindset around our excuses, our negative intentions, our unreasonable expectations, negative self-talk, our limiting fears and beliefs about being a mom that become a root of all these triggers and limits and things that hold us back from living a life we really love.

> 5-10 min videos/audios every day to raise your life to next level! Little by little, a little becomes A LOT.

And SO much more! Let me show you.

I can’t wait to see you there!



P.S. Have you been longing to live the life you always wanted, but it always feels just out of reach? I’m here to help you take back your dreams. It takes a village, and that’s why I’ve built a community of women just like you who are ready to master their mindsets! Join us here:

P.P.S. This is why I love helping Badass Moms rock their dream lives!