I Get Triggered.
I have as many challenges as anyone I know. Sometimes, it feels like more.
Even though I do this “work” that I love and I’m constantly working on myself, my inner peace and happiness, I still get angry. Mistakes are still made. My temper still gets lost. The result: I show up as a wounded version of myself.
As much as I try to be that monk on the hill and let all things roll off my back, to be completely honest, it doesn’t always happen. I try to channel my inner Nelson Mandela but sometimes I just can’t.
What I Do Know
There’s one thing I DO know how to do in those situations.
I know how to Course Correct.
For starters, I’m aware of the situation. I’m not blindly raging, thinking it’s everyone else’s fault. I know it’s my own challenge. I know it’s about me and no-one else but ME. I Own It!
That is to say that I can identify when I’m triggered and I know that it’s entirely my responsibility NOT to get triggered. It’s certainly not the world’s responsibility not to trigger me.
Above all, I know that I’m in control of my reactions. No one makes me mad. I chose to get mad. No one hurts me, I allow myself to be hurt or feel pain.
I’m either taking things personally or I’m in my own lane. I’m in my business or their business. What they do or say has nothing to do with me. Unless I let it.
So I find peace in my Course Corrections. I am in complete control.
I try to course correct as quickly as possible. So that my moments of peace are long and luscious and my moments of despair are fewer and far between.
The faster I can course correct, the quicker I can return to the true essence of who I am.
HOW exactly do I course correct?
I do the work on my thoughts and follow these steps:
- Consciously shift into a state of gratitude to recognize all of the goodness surrounding me
- Cancel the negative thought and reach for a better-feeling one
- Move into an appreciation for my life and even for the situation because there is always something to learn
My happiness depends on it.
One more thing I know for sure: This life is worth it. It’s too important. Walking around wounded and resentful only wastes my time. Drinking poison and thinking other people will die, I know better. And DO better, as soon as I can get there.
Course correcting now,