True Happiness, as It Turns Out, Doesn’t Happen Overnight

True Happiness, as It Turns Out, Doesn’t Happen Overnight

The J.O.B 

I took on this mission like a J. O. B. Diving headfirst into the world of personal development, I read every book from Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance to Power Vs Force.  I studied every guru out there: Pema Chodron, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, Eckhart Tolle, Oprah (Oh wow, did I watch a lot of Oprah).

The climb was long and hard at times, but I found my way to the top of the mountain and even started downhill (The view, the trees, the easy road ahead! I’d done it!).  Then at 35, I got married to the man of my dreams.

Brand. New.  Mountain.

At 38, I had Jack. He was seven weeks early. And then he cried for six straight months.  

Zoe came along at 40. And I realized I was only at base camp.  

There in front of me stood Mt. Everest.

I had to start climbing again…

So, that’s exactly what I did, and what I do. Every single day.

I climb for my kids – So they don’t have a mom who acts all happy on Facebook but yells at them every night.

I climb for my husband – So he’s not married to a woman who gets resentful when he works late and punishes him by withholding sex.

I climb for my siblings – Because they already lost one sibling and don’t deserve to lose another—to anger, sorrow, frustration or stress.

I climb for other moms – Moms who know deep down that they deserve more and desperately want to go to the edge but are afraid to even venture out of their tents.

The journey isn’t easy. It’s long, hard and treacherous at times. But one thing I know for sure is that we can’t climb alone. We need a team. We need a whole village of sisters to help us up this mountain.  We need Oprah and Deepak and wine (So. Much. Wine.).

So, I’m asking you to climb. To climb for you, to climb with me, to climb for your kids, for your relationship, for the happiness that you know you deserve.

Who’s with me?

Join me at the Badass Mom Society.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/badassmomsociety/

Things I’m Not Good At

Things I’m Not Good At

There are some things (many) that I am not good at, that I see other moms doing effortlessly. (Or seemingly effortlessly)

Here’s a short list where my “skills” are lacking:

  1. Shopping with kids.
  2. Staying at home with kids – Designing, decorating, styling. (All aspects of all of these)
  3. Home schooling
  4. Cooking
  5. Organizing
  6. Volunteering at school

I just look at these moms that can do some or all of these things like WOW!! I’m in awe.

Do you ever compare yourself to these Supermoms? I used to. But now I focus on my strengths. I have enough confidence in my gifts that I don’t get envious or jealous. Like:

  1. I can make an awesome green smoothie.
  2. I always have a healthy snack in my purse.
  3. I can design a workout anywhere anytime.
  4. I know how to talk anyone down from any ledge. Literally.
  5. I can turn around a situation and always find the positives.
  6. I can make anyone feel better about any situation.
  7. I make people feel good and comfortable.
  8. Nothing feels too hard for me.
  9. I believe anything’s possible.

My strengths may look different than most moms. We all have strengths, and guess what … we all have weaknesses. When we focus on our strengths, and try and show up as the best mom we can be, not better than anyone else, not trying to show up like that mom or that mom, everyone wins!

Just do you!! 

What do you do really well?

Share some of your strengths below.

Join the OPRF Mom Squad

Join the OPRF Mom Squad

Mommy friends,

Have you ever felt like the hustle is never ending?  (hello holidays)

Like you can’t keep up with life on so many levels?  (don’t even ask me about missing my daughters first ever recital)

Like your patience is just out of reach…. especially when its bedtime…….. and your kids are fighting……. and they refuse to brush their teeth?!   (um DAILY)

I’ve been there.  Believe me.  The struggle is REAL.

A few years ago I had enough.  I was bound and determined to improve my parenting.  To stop yelling, end the cycle of bad behavior with my kids and myself and finally get this parenting thing down.

Be careful what you wish for.

What transpired after launching that rocket of desire was a divine intervention from Oprah and Dr. Shefali Tsabary.  It was a great awakening that I REALLY needed.

Watch this video for that story…

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Now here I am, on the other side of it.  I’ve been asked to speak about Happiness, Conscious Parenting, how to master manifesting.  I’ve taught workshops for parents and kids to help them shift their limiting beliefs and find more daily happiness.

Believe me, there are still times when I think ‘how did I get here’?  ‘Aren’t I the unconscious parent’?

And yet I still hear the call to share what I have learned.

Recently, I spoke at the Oak Park Women’s Guild.  What an amazing and inspiring group of women!  I talked about Mom Mastery (not actually possible) and how to find more happiness amongst the hustle.  I went over 6 steps that I’ve used to create everything I’ve ever wanted along this Mom journey.  The workshop was well received.  So much so that some of the women asked me to create some on going coaching.

And then OPRF Mom Squad was born.  I’ve been leading masterminds and accountability groups for over 20 years.  They are the #1 thing that has helped me to create immeasurable success in so many areas of my life.  I’ve started 3 businesses, I’m in the best shape of my life, I live in my dream home, and LOVE every inch of it. My husband and I have the closest relationship we’ve ever had in our 20 years together. (Ok maybe not when we picked out our Christmas tree last week, but still…)

And I’m now, finally, really feeling great about my parenting.  A powerful underlying indicator to all the above is our emotional life.  At this point in my life I feel like I’ve found a way to control my reactions. (#momwin)  I now know what to do with my stressful thoughts and how to handle my biggest challenges.  (i.e.: public school and my son Jack) The chutes and ladders are much shorter these days.  They’ll never be gone.  I get that.  But they’re MUCH easier than before.  And that’s all I can hope for.  I love my life.  And I’m really grateful for every moment.  It took work.  But I got there.

I created OPRF Mom Squad to help you get there too.  If you’re interested in joining click here to fill out this form. Or email me with any questions steffani@mylifebook.com 

This powerful mastermind format will hold you accountable to be the Mom you’ve always wanted to be.

To be the Mom your kids need you to be.

It will help you to finally put your fearful thoughts and self doubt and limiting beliefs in place and move powerfully forward into a life you’re proud of.


What Mom Squad IS:

Community: surround yourself with other Moms who are sharing similar experiences raising kids in Oak Park and River Forest. Because you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with and we’re going to up that average.

Accountability: nourish new relationships with women who will hold you accountable to the best version of you that you can be.

Growth: monthly content working on the 6 key strategies to improve your life and happiness.  Because if you don’t, no one else will.

Support: a supportive Facebook community that’s always got your back.

Positive, hopefully and happiness focused:  Happiness is the art of allowing and what we’re all after.  When we focus on our happiness we can raise happiness.


What Mom Squad ISN’T:

Typical:  You will not find your average woman here.  We’re here to live extraordinary lives.  We didn’t come this far to only come this far.

Negative: This is not the place to come to vent and moan about your existing conditions or problems.  There’s a way to search for solutions without complaint.

Stagnant: we will all be taking ACTION to move our lives forward.  No more programs without progress.

Passive: You need to participate in order to make powerful positive change.  Thus the accountability piece. #soimportant

Pushy: You are the master of your own experience, the more you put into it the more you’ll get out of it. But we will not show up at your doorstep to make sure you make the calls.  Unless you want us to. 🙂


How does this awesome program work: 

This is a 6 month long commitment.  We will discuss 1 of the 6 key strategies each month.

January – Awareness The fast track to freedom.  Master your awareness and you will master life.

February – Prime Yourself How you prepare yourself for your day will determine if you’re set up for success in all areas of life.

March – Change Your Thoughts You create your thoughts.  Your thoughts create your intentions.  Your intentions create your reality.  What are your thoughts creating?

April – Take Action Now we’re ready to take downstream action and use the strategies we’ve learned to create new habits.

May – Safeguard Your Happiness This is the art of allowing all your desires in.  Just how happy can you be? Let’s find out!

June – Maintenance How to use all the new tools you have to create powerful LASTING change in your life.


How will this happen:

Through a dynamic Facebook group
Bi weekly Uber conference accountability calls

  • Week 1 Deep dive call into the monthly content with Q and A
  • Week 3 Hot seat coaching with Q and A and accountability

And through your own open, vulnerable willingness to contribute and take action.

Plus monthly IN PERSON get togethers to love on each other face to face.


Cost:

Only $49/month for 6 months. You can cancel at any time if you’re “too busy” (warning limiting belief surfacing) or you’re just not vibing it.

Let’s support each other while we raise our kids and ourselves.

And make this Mom thing even better, together.

Please email Steffani@myhappilife.com to join or for more info.  I’d love to hear where you’re at and see if this mastermind will suit your needs.

Sending you happiness, health, love and positivity,

Steffani