The #1 Skill You Need In Parenting

The #1 Skill You Need In Parenting

Have you ever thought about PROJECTION?  How you may project your ideas, opinions, feelings or unreasonable expectations onto others.  Especially our kids?!  

Well you might not have thought about it that way. Or maybe you have. But either way, we do it.  

We use our past experience and our childhood to ‘predict’ how our kids are FEELING. And we try and manipulate their reality to shape the story we have of what it should be.  

Sounds crazy I know. But we do it… ALL THE TIME.  

Check out this video where I share the #1 most important skill you need in parenting.  And how we PROJECT all over the place. 

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If you’re not ‘into’ video.  Here are the cliff notes…  

When we project our values, opinions, feelings, and expectations onto our kids we always come out disappointed. The key to changing this is to PAUSE. Stop and reflect on what you’re doing and how that’s affecting your child’s experience. And your own. I share a few examples of how I used the pause approach in my own life to help you see where it can be highly effective.  

Similar to the PAUSE is the #1 most important skill you need in parenting. And that is to learn how to STOP. To stop yourself in your tracks and respond instead of reacting.  

I know it sounds hard or damn near impossible to do that at the moment when your kid just told you to ‘go F yourself”. But it is possible. It’s not only possible it’s necessary. For us to stay sane and for them to stay alive.  

More stories about how this is possible and some great questions from some awesome Mamas in the training video. 

I’d love to hear what comes up for you.  Have you been projecting?  Do you need to pause more?  Have you learned the amazing magic of STOPPING in your tracks and responding versus reacting?  Leave me a comment. I’d love to connect with you. 

On Listening To Your Heart

On Listening To Your Heart

5 years ago 

I finally listened to my heart and officially launched my own coaching business…..

5 years before that

I had everyone around me, including my heart, telling me I should coach. I knew there was a bigger way I could serve, 5 years before that I was working my real “job” but I was coaching every chance I got. I felt the pull to coach and serve every damn day.

I don’t want it to take you as long as it took me.

Have you heard the call? Have you answered the call? I believe we all have many Universal assignments that we need to step up and step into.

For me, one of them was coaching. Helping busy Moms work on their mindset, remove there limiting beliefs, improve their relationships, so they can find more daily happiness. And be the Moms they have always wanted to be. The Moms their kids need them to be.

What does your call sound like? 

Can you hear it? 

How can you clear your head so you can hear your heart? 

For me, I hear a lot of head chatter. But the heart calling is very different.

The heart call is downstream. The heart call is effortless. The heart call is fun. The heart call might be work but it still feels GREAT. The heart call has purpose and meaning. And most of all the heart call is not about me. It’s about how I can SERVE the world.

I realized on this 5 year anniversary that I need to show up more in a place of service than I have recently. In order to serve busy Moms the way I want to, I need to SHOW UP. I need to share what works for me. I need to give, and grow and be here every day for these Mommas who are looking for support and a big shift.

A lot of Moms are unaware how to shift what isn’t working in their lives. And that’s where I can help. That’s my specialty.

So if you see me on FB more often showing up as my highest self, now you know why. I’m here to answer that heart call. I’m here to serve. I’m here to genuinely and authentically share my love of life and what worked to help me get there.

I’m here to show you what’s possible. I’m here to raise the bar and live an extraordinary life in every area.

And I want to take you with me. 

Who’s up for the ride?

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