Living with No Regrets and Leaving a Legacy

Living with No Regrets and Leaving a Legacy

This last week I’ve been doing a lot of small group coaching.  And a common theme has been creeping in…. regrets.

It’s a word we often don’t reflect on until it’s too late.  I came across an article by John-Paul Iwuoha. The 5 Biggest Regrets People Have Before They Die. What he shared in the article was…

Bronnie Ware – an Australian nurse and counselor – took care of terminally ill people, most of whom had less than 12 weeks to live.  As part of therapy, Bronnie would ask about any regrets they had about their lives and anything they would do differently. Of all the responses she got from her patients, she noticed there were 5 regrets that stood out.

These were the most common regrets of her patients:

1) I wish I pursued my dreams and aspirations, and not the life others expected of me

Ouch.  That hurts.  This is a classic case of our head getting in the way of our heart.  The biggest take away from this #1 regret is…If you know what really makes you happy…do it! And if you don’t know what really makes you happy, what your dreams and aspirations are…FIND OUT.  Don’t wait until tomorrow. Heck, don’t wait another minute.  Do. It. Now! Joseph Campbell said it best.  “Follow your bliss.” Stop doing everything else.  And get out there and set the world on fire with your passion and purpose.  It’s never too late. Actually, it is. So do it now.

2) I wish I didn’t work so hard

No surprise here.  We don’t often wish at the end of our lives that we had spent more time at work.  People often wish they had put more focus on other things including their relationships, their health, and their spirituality.  Yep. All those really important things that we put on the back burner. Those things that matter most that we reserve for weekends and holiday breaks.  What is WRONG with this picture? We have our priorities backwards. Let’s turn them around. And start focusing on who we love.  What we love to do.  When we love doing it.  And how often.  That’s a great start.  

3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings and speak my mind

Emotional intelligence….wow.  Game changer. This to me means also “I wish I had taken more time to work on ME.” Because when we do the work, we get stronger.  Period. We have firmer boundaries, and we can express our needs. It’s only through our vulnerability that we can truly reach out greatness.  But we don’t explore our edge a lot. We don’t fully trust ourselves or others. There’s a whole other layer to this life that I see most women leaving left unexplored.  It’s our shame. It’s the real, raw, vulnerable truth of how we feel. And that, when exposed can lead be miraculous. It can create doors where there were once walls. Greatness here we come!  

4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.  But we often don’t work on it. This is more proof that the Harvard Grant study, the longest lasting study in history was right.  Having close friendships and intimate connections can quite literally determine our success in life.  Not just in life but in every area of our life.  Our relationship, our health, our wealth, our impact.  All of that is affected positively or negatively by our intimate friendships.  Our connections make life better. We need to treat them that way and consciously work on them.  #sisterhood

5) I wish I had let myself be happier

When we realize that happiness is a choice and we put conscious effort into it, that can lead to an incredibly fulfilling life. I also believe happiness is the art of allowing.  There’s a lot more at play here than just joy. When we focus on our happiness we tune in to our deeper desires. But again its something we take for granted. We think it should just happen.  So we don’t work at it. We hustle and work hard and think that will make us happy. If there’s one thing I could shout from the rooftops it would be this… “Master your happiness and you will master your life.”   

So I ask you…are there any REGRETS that you don’t want to die with?

Are you spending too much time working?

Putting work in front of family, friends, relationships?

Are you making money your top priority?  

Are there adjustments you can make in your life to change any of that?  

I think this study proves that living the most rewarding fulfilling life possible is not only necessary, it’s crucial.

Let’s continue the conversation. And see how we can not just live with no regrets but also leave a legacy.

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People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy….

People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy….

People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy. It triggers a lot of people. And I get it. People are turned off by my Facebook posts. People think I’m ‘way too happy’.

People just immediately check out when they start following me. They think it’s not real. Someone commented begrudgingly the other day “easy for you… your life is so effortless”.  I really do get it. I get how it can seem that way.

What they don’t know is, it took A LOT of work to have this effortless life.

  • They don’t know that I’ve done hundreds of hours of training to learn how to control my thoughts.
  • They don’t know that my husband drank and used drugs for many years in our relationship before finally getting sober? (Not an easy road….)
  • They don’t know that I’ve spent around 20-30K a year on my personal growth.
  • I’ve been to 88 conferences and counting in the last 20 years.
  • They don’t know that I’ve been on a Mediterranean Cruise with Mike Dooley, a Hay House Cruise in the Bahamas. I’ve been to 8 Afests, and 8 Celebrate Your Life Conferences. I did Landmark, the Institute for Self Actualization, Abraham Hicks workshops, Unleash the Power Within, Imago Therapy, The Gift and Lifebook.
  • They don’t know that I’m a trained Enneagram Master, a Passion Test facilitator and a Byron Katie “The Work” teacher.
  • They don’t know that I’ve taken so many online parenting courses I can’t count them all.
  • They don’t know that I’ve read at least 12 books a year for the last 15 years. (And ALL I read is personal growth and empowerment material)
  • They don’t know that I’ve formed and run over 15 mastermind and accountability groups. And have paid to participate in over a dozen.
  • They don’t know that I do affirmations, I work on my thoughts, I meditate, I have a gratitude practice and I visualize. DAILY.
  • They don’t know that I eat healthy, I exercise and I take a shit ton of supplements. DAILY.
  • They don’t know that my son was born 7 weeks early and cried for the first 5 months of his life. (The best lesson I’ve ever had in unconditional love and acceptance. And where I learned my own personal power.)
  • They don’t know that my sister died when I was 11 years old to launch my lifelong journey learning how to move through loss.

This happy life is not effortless. It takes work. But it’s WORTH IT. Because the results are a crazy happy, insanely fulfilling, effortless life.

I no longer believe I need to suffer.
I no longer believe my thoughts of lack or drama or negativity.
I no longer feel unworthy and like I’m not enough.

You can bet your ass that self-destructive behavior is doing 1 arm push-ups in the corner getting stronger by the day. Just waiting for me to let my guard down. But I know I’ve got this. Because I’ve done the f’ing work. So yes, this ‘effortless’ life takes work. And it’s YOURS too if you want it.

You CAN create a reality you love.

You CAN create an effortless life.

It starts with our thoughts.

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There’s nothing I love more.

Be effortless,



A New Story is Yours to Write

A New Story is Yours to Write

Our reality starts by writing a new story.

I have found what works. I have the tools. I have the sisterhood. I have the support and the coaching and this is making a difference.  One big thing for me to create the life that I love is to believe that it’s possible.

I have to believe that what I’m doing is going to work, that I deserve it, that I am worthy.  Belief is the masterpiece that’s under all of those categories.

Belief is so important.

We’re going down a new path and thinking new thoughts:

  • I am healthy
  • I’m healing
  • I’ve got this
  • I believe in myself
  • I can do this
  • I am worthy
  • I am deserving
  • I am enough.

And guess what happens?

The neurons in your brain begin to fire towards something new and positive and exciting.

Did you know that a positive, healthy thought is 100 times more powerful than a negative thought?  There is a spirit and energy to your thoughts and when we deliberately insert new, positive ones, we can re-wire our own thinking. We’re creating new neurological pathways, and new mental and emotional pathways every day.

I would like you to start thinking about what you really want in your lifetime.

What does your new meadow look like?

What do you want to create for yourself?  Who do you want to be(come)?  What would you like to DO? What would YOU like to have?

Write it down in your journal.  Reach for the stars.  Make your meadow as beautiful as you possibly can.

I would love to help you on the journey.

Give me 12 weeks–and together, we’ll write your new story. You are worth it. You deserve it.
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