People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy….

People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy….

People don’t like that I’m so positive and happy. It triggers a lot of people. And I get it. People are turned off by my Facebook posts. People think I’m ‘way too happy’.

People just immediately check out when they start following me. They think it’s not real. Someone commented begrudgingly the other day “easy for you… your life is so effortless”.  I really do get it. I get how it can seem that way.

What they don’t know is, it took A LOT of work to have this effortless life.

  • They don’t know that I’ve done hundreds of hours of training to learn how to control my thoughts.
  • They don’t know that my husband drank and used drugs for many years in our relationship before finally getting sober? (Not an easy road….)
  • They don’t know that I’ve spent around 20-30K a year on my personal growth.
  • I’ve been to 88 conferences and counting in the last 20 years.
  • They don’t know that I’ve been on a Mediterranean Cruise with Mike Dooley, a Hay House Cruise in the Bahamas. I’ve been to 8 Afests, and 8 Celebrate Your Life Conferences. I did Landmark, the Institute for Self Actualization, Abraham Hicks workshops, Unleash the Power Within, Imago Therapy, The Gift and Lifebook.
  • They don’t know that I’m a trained Enneagram Master, a Passion Test facilitator and a Byron Katie “The Work” teacher.
  • They don’t know that I’ve taken so many online parenting courses I can’t count them all.
  • They don’t know that I’ve read at least 12 books a year for the last 15 years. (And ALL I read is personal growth and empowerment material)
  • They don’t know that I’ve formed and run over 15 mastermind and accountability groups. And have paid to participate in over a dozen.
  • They don’t know that I do affirmations, I work on my thoughts, I meditate, I have a gratitude practice and I visualize. DAILY.
  • They don’t know that I eat healthy, I exercise and I take a shit ton of supplements. DAILY.
  • They don’t know that my son was born 7 weeks early and cried for the first 5 months of his life. (The best lesson I’ve ever had in unconditional love and acceptance. And where I learned my own personal power.)
  • They don’t know that my sister died when I was 11 years old to launch my lifelong journey learning how to move through loss.


This happy life is not effortless. It takes work. But it’s WORTH IT. Because the results are a crazy happy, insanely fulfilling, effortless life.

I no longer believe I need to suffer.
I no longer believe my thoughts of lack or drama or negativity.
I no longer feel unworthy and like I’m not enough.


You can bet your ass that self-destructive behavior is doing 1 arm push-ups in the corner getting stronger by the day. Just waiting for me to let my guard down. But I know I’ve got this. Because I’ve done the f’ing work. So yes, this ‘effortless’ life takes work. And it’s YOURS too if you want it.

You CAN create a reality you love.

You CAN create an effortless life.

It starts with our thoughts.


Creating your NEXT LEVEL LIFE isn’t just possible, it’s PROBABLE with the right kind of support, accountability, and know-how. My Next Level Mastermind isn’t simply a 6 month long coaching program, it’s a soul-searching, goal-planning, and shit-ton-of-action-taking mastermind. We start in May and the time to apply is now.  
There’s nothing I love more.

Be effortless,

Steff

 

A New Story is Yours to Write

A New Story is Yours to Write

Our reality starts by writing a new story.

I have found what works. I have the tools. I have the sisterhood. I have the support and the coaching and this is making a difference.  One big thing for me to create the life that I love is to believe that it’s possible.

I have to believe that what I’m doing is going to work, that I deserve it, that I am worthy.  Belief is the masterpiece that’s under all of those categories.

Belief is so important.

We’re going down a new path and thinking new thoughts:

  • I am healthy
  • I’m healing
  • I’ve got this
  • I believe in myself
  • I can do this
  • I am worthy
  • I am deserving
  • I am enough.

And guess what happens?

The neurons in your brain begin to fire towards something new and positive and exciting.

Did you know that a positive, healthy thought is 100 times more powerful than a negative thought?  There is a spirit and energy to your thoughts and when we deliberately insert new, positive ones, we can re-wire our own thinking. We’re creating new neurological pathways, and new mental and emotional pathways every day.

I would like you to start thinking about what you really want in your lifetime.

What does your new meadow look like?

What do you want to create for yourself?  Who do you want to be(come)?  What would you like to DO? What would YOU like to have?

Write it down in your journal.  Reach for the stars.  Make your meadow as beautiful as you possibly can.

I would love to help you on the journey.

Give me 12 weeks–and together, we’ll write your new story. You are worth it. You deserve it.
Just listen to these badass mamas share their breakthroughs.

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www.badasslifeintensive.com

How to Create A New Path that Leads to Your Vision of Life

How to Create A New Path that Leads to Your Vision of Life

How do you shift your thinking when it falls out of alignment? That is bound to happen now and then.

Up until now, we’ve been operating in our lives by following our habits.  Those habits have created a path in the forest that is our mind.

I’ve created a path for myself through that forest. It takes me to a clearing which had a certain level of contentment and happiness.  It included some frustration and dissatisfaction in my relationships.

The same can be said about my health and fitness.  The path had taken me to where I was and I wasn’t satisfied.

If I want to get to a new clearing, to the beautiful new meadow over there, I have no choice but to create a new path.  I have to blaze a new trail.

The same path that I’ve already worn, that’s already been created and the one I’ve always followed, is not going to get me to the beautiful meadow.  I desperately want to reach the clearing in the forest that holds all the lovely flowers of my relationship, the beautiful trees of my parenting and the babbling brook of my health and fitness along with the pretty butterflies for my business.

What do you really want?

I want to show up as the best mom that I can be.

A really epic love relationship is something I desire. I want to be so connected to my husband and have great sex. I want to fall in love with him over and over again, every day.

I want to be in the best shape of my life and be in a bikini all the time and be rocking my body at 48 years old.

My mission is to help and to serve more women.  I want to show women that life’s not all suffering. I want to help them live the life of their dreams and I want to do that in a big way. I want to help young girls know that they can be, do and have anything they want in their life.  I want to help more women step out of their feelings of overwhelm and step into more daily lasting happiness.

I want to create a community of women around me that are so badass and so amazing that they support every huge dream we share and celebrate every win – both massive and minuscule.

I want to be close with my family, close with my friends and community that live locally and connected to friends and community that live all around the world.

I want to travel and have epic experiences.

Those awesome and amazing elements are all features of the meadow in the forest that I have to get to.

What does your meadow look like?

Everyone’s is a little different.

Stephanie two point zero wants to go down the path to the new clearing. But here’s the thing, new tools are necessary to dig through the forest to get to that clearing. There’s not a worn-down easy path from here to there.

There’s a worn-down easy path that got me to the place in my life that I’ve always lived in.  It’s an old and familiar clearing.  That clearing wasn’t so pretty.  It held the weeds of frustration and the dying tree stumps of overwhelm and yelling. I was yelling at my kids all the time.  I was on the path of least resistance, one where I felt I wasn’t enough and where I was willing to settle for a crummy relationship.

That path has already well-worn and dug out and easy to follow because I’ve thought those thoughts over and over and over again.

So now I want to get to a new place.  The beautiful meadow that I know is there because I planned out the new clearing. I can see it through the trees because I’ve been doing a little bit of work and I’ve been getting clear about what I really want.

How do I get to the new place?

I need tools to start chopping down the trees and the overgrowth.  I need to break a new trail and clear the way.

Those exact tools are the ones I’ll be sharing with you in Badass Life Intensive. We’re going to talk about canceled processes and gratitude and your state and getting into the feeling place and how to best use all these new tools.

Your Tool-Belt Will Be Full

You’ll be picking up this ax and that sledgehammer and you’ll be chopping through the underbrush and cutting away the trees on your way to your beautiful meadow.

Here’s what I’ve found as I’ve begun to blaze a trail through the forest to the new meadow:  There are a lot of trees that need to be cleared and another big tree up there that takes a LOT of work and energy and then just when I think I’m through, Holy Shit, there’s a path over here that’s a lot easier to follow and I tend to jump back onto the worn down path that’s already cleared and easy to follow.

We have to remember that the simple path will not get us to that clearing.

The things that you’ve done in the past, the thoughts that occupied your mind and the feelings you felt are not going to get you to the big desired end result.

The beautiful meadow is over there.  We’ve got to think new thoughts. We’ve got to do different things and that might mean getting out your journal and writing about what you really want.  It might mean joining this program and inviting a friend to come along for the journey.  It will mean doing the homework, writing new affirmations and stating them every morning.  It will mean utilizing all these new tools in your tool-belt that I’m going to teach you.

But Guess What?  It’ll be worth it.

It will all work beautifully because new patterns and habits will be formed and a new path through the forest to the pristine meadow will be forged.

Once you create your new path, it gets easier to follow.

Meanwhile, the old path becomes so overgrown that it’s impossible to follow that one.  You don’t want to go down that path anymore.

Setbacks may still occur and you may just find yourself slugging it out on the old path, but you won’t stay there long.  It’s harder to keep digging yourself out.  You’ll find your way back to the new path even quicker next time.  You’ll use your new tools and clear a new way forward.

Learn more about the Badass Life Intensive here. 

I’ll see you there.