Have you ever thought about PROJECTION? How you may project your ideas, opinions, feelings or unreasonable expectations onto others. Especially our kids?!
Well you might not have thought about it that way. Or maybe you have. But either way, we do it.
We use our past experience and our childhood to ‘predict’ how our kids are FEELING. And we try and manipulate their reality to shape the story we have of what it should be.
Sounds crazy I know. But we do it… ALL THE TIME.
Check out this video where I share the #1 most important skill you need in parenting. And how we PROJECT all over the place.
If you’re not ‘into’ video. Here are the cliff notes…
When we project our values, opinions, feelings, and expectations onto our kids we always come out disappointed. The key to changing this is to PAUSE. Stop and reflect on what you’re doing and how that’s affecting your child’s experience. And your own. I share a few examples of how I used the pause approach in my own life to help you see where it can be highly effective.
Similar to the PAUSE is the #1 most important skill you need in parenting. And that is to learn how to STOP. To stop yourself in your tracks and respond instead of reacting.
I know it sounds hard or damn near impossible to do that at the moment when your kid just told you to ‘go F yourself”. But it is possible. It’s not only possible it’s necessary. For us to stay sane and for them to stay alive.
More stories about how this is possible and some great questions from some awesome Mamas in the training video.
I’d love to hear what comes up for you. Have you been projecting? Do you need to pause more? Have you learned the amazing magic of STOPPING in your tracks and responding versus reacting? Leave me a comment. I’d love to connect with you.