If you read my blog last week about Why Moms Need To Travel you know I’m an advocate of Moms traveling solo. I travel for work and pleasure often. And have found a WONDERFUL way to prepare the kids, and our whole family for my time away. (Tips on Mommy guilt coming later…)
Here are some of the tools I’ve used that have made traveling a LOT easier.
First and foremost spend LOTS of one on one time with them before you leave.Need I say more? If you’re a parent you get it.
I buy a dollar store gift for every day I’m gone. It helps them get excited to get out of bed and my husband has really easy mornings with them when they have this to look forward to and keep them busy. They usually contain simple games, or an easy dot to dot coloring book, or painting project. They love them. Quick warning…husbands don’t like Silly String 🙂
In a jar with a label I leave 1 kiss for each kid for each day that I’m away. This way when there are only a few left they know I’ll be home soon. And they know I’m thinking of them and this is my “KISS”.
I can’t leave without a detailed spreadsheet for everyone who will be helping out. It includes their daily schedule, their morning, afterschool and evening routines. Everyone and anyone’s phone numbers, including friends parents for play dates. All of their activities are on there. Who’s picking up who when. AND their logins for certain apps or websites they might use. Like ABC Mouse or Lexia Core.
I can’t forget about my first love. 🙂 I leave daily cards or notes for my husband so he knows how grateful I am for him while he’s doing extra duties around the house and with the kids. I’ve left little notes in our shower or bathroom and full handwritten cards and letters. Sometimes I ask the kids to give them to him once I’m gone in a nice box so they have that to look forward to the day I leave.
I always ask my kids to give me one of their “lovies” or stuffed animals while I travel. So I can take photos of where I am and show them what I’m up to. They know that I snuggle these lovies at night and think about them all the time. These lovies have more fun then the average person. 🙂 One time they were dancing on stage in front of hundreds of people. The kids LOVED it.
Once I started doing all of this when I went out of town it was a LOT easier to leave. My kids don’t whine about it. They actually look forward to it. 🙂
I always return with a present or a treat. And even if they miss me while I’m gone they have a lot of reinforcement that I’m thinking of them and that I’ll be back soon.
Will my kids be ok while I’m away?
The answer is HELL YES they will.
Now for those Moms who are longing to travel but still feel their kids will not be ok without them. I can tell you from experience it has HELPED my kids. They realize that they don’t need me for everything. They’re more self-reliant when I’m gone. I feel it’s ok for kids to miss someone. It doesn’t break them like we fear. They’re stronger than we know. A few days away is just a blip on the radar in their long and beautiful lives. It’s important for me to teach my kids how to handle challenging situations. How to get by and manage the day without me over their shoulder. And it teaches them how to have reverence for something, to be grateful when something returns, with gifts. 🙂 When I travel alone it helps them learn all of that. It has really enhanced our lives. I hope this enhances yours.
Loving this life and travel,
Founder and Happiness Coach at www.myhappilife.com