I Broke Down In Tears

I Broke Down In Tears

Yesterday I broke down in tears. It was a long day with the kids. Zoe got mad and threw something that hit me in the face. That’s what triggered it but not why I cried. I cried because I fell into an old pattern. An old story that used to creep up on me all the time. That story is…”it’s really hard to parent my kids.” 

And here’s all the evidence I’ve built up behind that story:

They’re explosive. 

They fight a lot. 

They have a hard time in school. 

They never stop moving. Or taking. Or whining. 

They are very needy. 

And just exhausting. 

That story took over as I cried in my room. With a lot of self defeating thoughts. 

“This is too hard.”

“I’m not good at this.”

“They’re so hard to parent.”

“Why can’t this be easier?” 

“I’m a terrible mom!”

These feelings swept over me. But not for long. I’ve been doing this work for too long to let this old pattern reemerge. I know not to believe and buy into the thoughts that don’t serve me. I can use them as fuel to make positive change. In this instance to create some boundaries with Zoe around how she treats people. But I can’t let stressful thoughts spiral out of control. Or they’ll start to define me. They’ll define us. 

“It’s the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

Aristotle was right. When we know how to let the thoughts that don’t serve us pass us by we can find more peace and love the people closest to us. 

This is powerful work we’re up to. Feel it. Honor it. But then don’t believe it. Choose the thoughts that empower you and support your growth. They’re always available. 

Believe in yourself, but not in your thoughts.  I believe in you,

 

How You Can Get Through These Hard Times With More Stability And Strength.

How You Can Get Through These Hard Times With More Stability And Strength.

It’s not easy to ride this roller coaster of emotions. Sharing a few tips here how you can get through these hard times with more stability and strength. Plus a suggestion… check in with your friends. Especially your extrovert friends. This is hard on us all and it might be harder on your strong friends then you think. Go easy on yourself and others.

I also wanted to share a process I’ve been using to boost my mornings. I call these 8 Power Questions. I write them in my journal every morning or in the notes on my phone after gratitude and meditation. Here are the questions: 

Morning

  1. A ‘big message’ I need to remind myself of and keep uppermost in my mind today is…
  1. The 3 goals/objectives I am most committed to completing today are… 
  1. Today I’m most committed to experiencing myself as… 
  1. What is most likely to get in the way/pull me off track from accomplishing my goals and feeling how I want to feel is…
  1. My plan for when that ☝☝☝☝ happens is…
  1. ONE action I could take today to stretch myself and get a LITTLE uncomfortable is…
  1. ONE action I can take to get outside and/or find some joy today is…
  1. I will know that today had been a successful day because…

(What would you have had to have done, experienced or felt?)

Try these out in the morning and see if it sets your day up for success and stay tuned for an evening process… 

Please let me know if there’s anything I can do, from my home to yours, to support you on this journey.

Come from love. Stay safe. Stay healthy. Stay positive. This too shall pass. #wevegotthis

 

Finding joy,

Steffani

A New Story is Yours to Write

A New Story is Yours to Write

Our reality starts by writing a new story.

I have found what works. I have the tools. I have the sisterhood. I have the support and the coaching and this is making a difference.  One big thing for me to create the life that I love is to believe that it’s possible.

I have to believe that what I’m doing is going to work, that I deserve it, that I am worthy.  Belief is the masterpiece that’s under all of those categories.

Belief is so important.

We’re going down a new path and thinking new thoughts:

  • I am healthy
  • I’m healing
  • I’ve got this
  • I believe in myself
  • I can do this
  • I am worthy
  • I am deserving
  • I am enough.

And guess what happens?

The neurons in your brain begin to fire towards something new and positive and exciting.

Did you know that a positive, healthy thought is 100 times more powerful than a negative thought?  There is a spirit and energy to your thoughts and when we deliberately insert new, positive ones, we can re-wire our own thinking. We’re creating new neurological pathways, and new mental and emotional pathways every day.

I would like you to start thinking about what you really want in your lifetime.

What does your new meadow look like?

What do you want to create for yourself?  Who do you want to be(come)?  What would you like to DO? What would YOU like to have?

Write it down in your journal.  Reach for the stars.  Make your meadow as beautiful as you possibly can.

I would love to help you on the journey.

Give me 12 weeks–and together, we’ll write your new story. You are worth it. You deserve it.
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