I’ve been talking to many of my clients lately about a belief mindset and it’s been such a hot topic that I want to share it with you.
What do I mean by a “Belief Mindset?”
A belief mindset is getting into that space mentally where you truly believe that the things you want to create, all that you desire and want to manifest is possible. Not in an ‘If’ way either. In a ‘When’ way.
When we’re not in a belief mindset, we’re in a lack or a limit mindset.
How you can tell if you’re in a Belief or a Limit Mindset
When you think about something that you want and the little voice pops up to says “Yeah, yeah…like that’ll ever happen” or “that costs too much money” or “You’ll never have enough time,” or you’re pulled back into reality with “but people are going to judge me.” You’re hanging out with your limiting beliefs.
Those negative limiting beliefs are anchors weighing you down and holding you back from all the greatness you can achieve.
On the other hand, the belief mindset will get you to where you want to be. Belief will help you achieve your desires by keeping you focused on possibility and what you can make happen.
So how can we build belief and get into that belief mindset?
I’ve been working on answering that exact question for many years and what I’ve learned is that the belief has to come first.
When I believed last year that I could triple my income and my business, I broke it down into believable components. I believed that my courses and trainings would fill up easily. I believed that I’d be hired to speak and to deliver programs and paid for my expertise to host masterminds. I also believed that my 22-year relationship with my husband would improve as a result too.
When I believed that I could get in the best shape of my life, I did.
Your BELIEF Determines Your Reality.
Our lives are shaped through our beliefs. Our thoughts, words and feelings all flow from that belief.
I’ve learned that if I can get into that belief mindset and really feel that thing that I desire as if it has already come about, then it’s game over. It’s a done deal. All of the ‘How Questions’ disappear as solution after solution come about to make it all happen.
So many of my clients (and I’m guilty of this too) have been trapped in the ‘How To’s.’ We get stopped up with questions:
- How will I create that business structure?
- How will I make this work?
- How will I create a workable action plan?
Hope is not a plan.
We can make plans to achieve our goal but I’ve learned to avoid becoming firmly attached to the plans.
It’s important to have a firm goal AND to be flexible with the plan. There are infinite numbers of solutions to help you achieve your goal and the path you set upon to get to it, may not be the one that actually leads you to it. You may have to find a shortcut, you may end up on the low road instead of the high one…just don’t get stuck in the quicksand. Keep moving forward, adjust the plan as you need to.
Get attached to the big dream, the desire, the result you want to reach.
More important still: Become supremely attached to how you want to feel when you reach your destination…because THAT FEELING is what will motivate you to get there – through the darkness, over the hurdles, and yes, the FEELING will even help you solve the quicksand challenge.
The belief mindset can create miracles.
That’s the mindset that can move mountains. How you think and what you feel can manifest things in our life beyond your wildest dreams – things you never even planned. The belief mindset will take you beyond your big dreams even.
One of my clients and very good friends just manifested her dream job beyond what she could have ever imagined even though she’d started out with limiting beliefs and a mindset of lack holding her back.
With some training, some inner work and a shift to positive affirmations, she came to believe that she deserved her dream job and that she could make it happen. She believed it was possible for her. She aligned, aligned, aligned, and guess what??? Her efforts were rewarded. It happened. She was offered her dream job and when she called me with the joyful news… I was the one crying and expressing gratitude to HER for sharing her journey with me. It’s a beautiful place to be.
How can you get into that belief mindset?
Another strategy that I use to build my belief and get into the belief mindset is to surround myself with people who’ve done the things that I want to do. If they’ve done it, then I know it’s possible. If I hang out with them, their knowledge and expertise will come my way and I appreciate their mentorship. Successful people speak success and I’m an eternal sponge. I’ve learned to never have too much ego so as to miss the lessons of other people’s successes and failures. Those are invaluable.
The same success principle applies across the board
If you want to learn a new skill-set or pick up a new talent – find someone who’s done it with excellence and emulate them.
I wanted to start a business. What did I do? I surrounded myself with other entrepreneurs who have grown successful businesses.
If you want to learn an instrument, hang out with a musician – one who’s mastered the instrument of your choice. If you want to be a coach, you surround yourself with coaches who’ve developed successful coaching businesses. Investing in real estate? It would be prudent to chat with a few people who’ve made fortunes in real estate. Want to get a dog? Talked to someone who owns the breed you’re considering.
So what can you do to believe first?
That is a beautiful question to ask yourself.
If you’d like some more tools to help you with this particular dilemma, I have a 21-Day Bad Ass Mom Mindset program starting on January 21st. It’s only $11 to get registered and you’ll get 21 days worth of awesome tools plus more powerful, positive belief mindset talks.
Believe, believe, believe that’s my word for 2019 and I’m excited to talk to you more about it. Contact me if you’d like to join me and I hope you’re having a beautiful day.