Yesterday I broke down in tears. It was a long day with the kids. Zoe got mad and threw something that hit me in the face. That’s what triggered it but not why I cried. I cried because I fell into an old pattern. An old story that used to creep up on me all the time. That story is…”it’s really hard to parent my kids.”
And here’s all the evidence I’ve built up behind that story:
They fight a lot.
They have a hard time in school.
They never stop moving. Or taking. Or whining.
They are very needy.
And just exhausting.
That story took over as I cried in my room. With a lot of self defeating thoughts.
“This is too hard.”
“I’m not good at this.”
“They’re so hard to parent.”
“Why can’t this be easier?”
“I’m a terrible mom!”
These feelings swept over me. But not for long. I’ve been doing this work for too long to let this old pattern reemerge. I know not to believe and buy into the thoughts that don’t serve me. I can use them as fuel to make positive change. In this instance to create some boundaries with Zoe around how she treats people. But I can’t let stressful thoughts spiral out of control. Or they’ll start to define me. They’ll define us.
“It’s the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”
Aristotle was right. When we know how to let the thoughts that don’t serve us pass us by we can find more peace and love the people closest to us.
This is powerful work we’re up to. Feel it. Honor it. But then don’t believe it. Choose the thoughts that empower you and support your growth. They’re always available.
Believe in yourself, but not in your thoughts. I believe in you,
What can I do if my husband is really negative and stressed out? This is one of the biggest questions I get. And I get it. Our relationships can be the source of the most stress or the most joy.
I share some strategies in this quick video training I recorded just for you guys. And address how to get along during these crazy times. This pandemic is forcing a lot of relationship issues up to the surface. It’s up to you if your relationship will fail, survive or thrive.
We have to check in often. And make sure we’re building a solid foundation.
How’s your relationship doing on lockdown? What can YOU do to make it better? Check out this short video for ideas and head over to my Badass Mom Society FB group for more training like this.
Your relationship matters. Make it count.
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A few of my inner circle ladies asked this great question. “How can I help my friend who is struggling?” We’re not all coaches. I get that. They asked for a few easy things they can do to help a friend if they’re having a hard time coping.
In this video, I share a few steps you can take. Including:
- Validate their feelings.
- Ask about their state.
- Help them shift their thoughts.
- Bring them back to joy and gratitude.
Check out the vid for some simple examples. And PLEASE share your ideas and what has worked for you to support your friends. Join my Badass Mom Society Facebook group for more tools like this and to share your wins.
One day at a time! We’re all in this together. We’ve got this…
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